I went for a job interview the other day at a place I shall not name. However, it did not go as planned. The store manager had already interviewed me and we got along swimmingly. I was sent to interview with the deli manager and that is where things got rude. she asked the usual questions about transportation and child care. She then proceeded to step over the line. She asked about my marriage status and when I said I was not married she immediately got rude. She looked down her nose at me and said "Mhm okay I'll let you know". I did not once pull any punches about my being a single mother. She decided in that moment that I was part of a problem.
I am a single mother by choice. I chose to be single rather than suffer through a relationship I did not want or need. I had already lost one baby due to the stress of being in a relationship with my daughters father. I was not going to lose another one. I did it for my child's safety. I do not see my being strong enough to deny a "traditional" relationship as a bad thing. But this woman made me feel like I was something less than human, something less than a woman and something less than a struggling single mother. I had done nothing to this woman to warrant such an attitude.
I am a single mother by choice. I chose to be single rather than suffer through a relationship I did not want or need. I had already lost one baby due to the stress of being in a relationship with my daughters father. I was not going to lose another one. I did it for my child's safety. I do not see my being strong enough to deny a "traditional" relationship as a bad thing. But this woman made me feel like I was something less than human, something less than a woman and something less than a struggling single mother. I had done nothing to this woman to warrant such an attitude.
Oh sure there are a lot of women out there that are single mothers just because they couldn't stop having sex. They made mistakes and did not chose that life but no woman deserves to be treated like gum on the bottom of your shoe. Even if they called me tomorrow telling me I had a job I would refuse to show up. I simply see no point in stressing myself, my daughter and my life to work for someone so rude. Being a single mother is not and will never be a bad thing. I only wish that more women chose to be single mothers rather than stay in abusive, stressful and harming relationships with people that just do not care.